On the days when there is no time to have an elaborate tea party or take out all the blankets to make a magical fort, here are ten simple games that will help foster connection with your child - all in under 10 minutes. 

1. Build an Obstacle Course 

Use your furniture to create a series of fun challenges. (You may need to bring in some extra chairs from another room.). Tell your child to climb over, crawl under, do jumping jacks, make funny faces, sing a song, or whatever fun obstacle you can create together. 

Time it! Children love to show adults how fast they are. Timing it really gets them excited and motivated. After the first time, tell them “I think you can do it faster than that!” Encourage them to try it faster and faster. It builds their confidence and shows them how they can measure success based on their own performance and not their peers. 

2. Play Hug Tag

A fun and cuddly spin on the traditional game of tag. Chase your kid around the house trying to hug them. If you catch them, you get to hug and kiss them for ten seconds. My daughter loves this game. 

3. Journal 

This one is great for first grade and above when kids are  starting to read and write. I love the Five Minute Journals for Kids. Set a ten minute timer and spend that time quietly playing soft music and sitting next to each other as you write. It is helpful to give a writing topic, such as everything you are grateful for or what were each of your favorite parts of the day. 

4. Color

Another quiet activity that is great for connection. I love adult coloring books and tombow watercolor markers. My daughter loves them, but I only let her use them when we color together because they can easily stain fabrics. She feels so special when we get to use them together and she loves picking out her color palette. It’s also a wonderful way for her to learn about primary and secondary colors and how colors fit together. 

5. Produce “Pretend TV” 

My daughter has a stencil pad that lights up and one day she turned it into an “iPad.”. She said she was watching Netflix so I joined her and started making over-the-top emotions. She thought it was hysterical. As she pretended to change channels, I would switch up my emotions. Now she asks if I want to watch Netflix on her “iPad” and it is a hilarious ten minute game. 

6. Create a Surprise Bath

I’m not sure how this started but it’s become a regular ask. My daughter will want me to make her a surprise bath. I get out my salts, essential oils, and candles and make her a bath fit for a princess. She will soak in it for quite awhile and I will read her a story. A few times I even picked a rose from outside and sprinkled the petals in her bath. Talk about luxury!

7. Have a Dance Party

This is a great way to change up the mood in the house, especially during quarantine. We take turns picking songs and blasting them through the sound system. It is a great break from work and an impromptu way to create connection with her in the middle of the day. It also stimulates creativity. We come up with some pretty amazing dance moves.

8. Conduct Science Experiments

This is not your typical science experiment but it is a good way to use up expired products. I get out old baking soda, baking powder, anything that has gone rancid, and let my daughter go wild with mixing and stirring. She has a science kit with test tubes, droppers and microscope slides and we have lots of fun making a gooey mess pretending we are discovering new products to help save the world. When I don’t have expired products, we go out in nature and collect dirt, leaves, and grass. The trick to cleanup is to contain this in one tray or the sink.

9. Avoid the “Snake”

This game is another great way to connect while getting out some of your child’s pent up energy. Grab a jump rope or string and tie one end to a chair leg then stand far apart holding the other end. Wiggle it like a snake on the floor and tell your child to run and jump over it. If they touch the rope, it’s a snake bite and you have to tickle them to get the venom out. Make the snake smaller or bigger making them jump higher and longer. It’s another great way to challenge them and allow them to show you their strength.

10. Play Cards

I taught my daughter how to play cards at a very young age. In the beginning it was Go Fish and Old Maid. Now she has progressed to games like Uno, crazy eights, kings and rummy 500. She is quite the card shark. I always tell her I should take her to vegas with her card luck. We can have a quick card game at lunch or after dinner. It’s quick, fun and interactive.