5 Ways to Set Boundaries around How You Eat

Boundaries set the stage for positive relationships and healthier lives. There’s freedom when we clearly communicate barriers with others and simultaneously stand by our decisions. This is evidenced everywhere, from parenting to life choices. But here at PrimaFoodie, we’ve found boundaries often get overlooked when it comes to our dietary choices. It can be challenging when our food protocols clash with social engagements or other people’s diets. This is why some clear direction can be helpful.  

1. Communicate your protocols. Our founder, Nichole, has sometimes felt like a broken record when it comes to telling others about her dietary restrictions. But clear and consistent communication is essential. Whether you’re hosting people or are a guest in someone’s home, always announce your dietary needs well ahead of time (at least two days prior). It can be as simple as, “I am dairy, grain and sugar free and so is our household” via an email or text.  It’s simple, elegant, and it will put everyone at ease.

2. Explain expectations for guests. After you clearly communicate your dietary needs, make your expectations for others known. It can be quite clear and direct, such as “please do not bring any dairy, gluten, or refined sugars into our home.” Or it can be more open and flexible like, “if you choose to bring any food, please label exactly what it contains, such as wheat or dairy.” These expectations are important because as common as restrictive diets are these days, conversations around them are still lacking.

3. Call ahead about the menu. When Nichole receives an invitation, she always calls ahead to alert the host and ask if the menu can be sent in advance. From there, she knows what she can and cannot eat. If there are things of concern, you can request a swap or change, such as: “Would you please hold the sauce or breadcrumbs? Or save a chicken breast on the side for me?” These are easy solutions in the kitchen and require little effort from your host to ensure you can enjoy the party.

4. Address gifts. No one wants to show up empty handed. But no one wants to show up with a gift that interferes with your health. For generous guests who insist on bringing gifts, it’s helpful to tell them exactly what to bring: flowers. It’s one simple, loving gift that will avoid any health issues or conflict.

5. Inquire about other health measures. Nearly all of 2020 has involved navigating a global pandemic. With this has come a varied mix of people’s opinions about safety. While everyone’s decisions are personal, they inevitably impact others. When hosting, announce your sentiments around safety beforehand—i.e. “There will be no more than nine guests present. Dinner will be outside, so please bring a jacket. We request everyone wear masks before and after dinner.” When invited to someone’s home, politely ask about what’s important to you ahead of time.

What we’ve learned over time is that these strategies not only support your health and happiness, but they go a long way in strengthening friendships. Because after all, communication and understanding are the centerpiece of all relationships. And our health deserves to be front and center.